Which guy will u choose if u are me?

If I have to choose, it would be (2) but I have to be honest here and tell you that neither sounds like a good match for you. First of all, there are already communication problems with both of them, and I am not a fan of doing "some work" to make it work. People get to be whoever they are, and if they are getting wrong signals or becoming angry---that already shows misunderstandings. Why not make a list of non-negotiable things you want in a guy and not settle for less than that.